As I was browsing my facebook yesterday, with news of Senator Chiz Escudero and Heart Evangelista’s wedding filling up my news feed, this post certainly caught my attention.
Heart Evangelista cries on wedding day after reading dad’s letter
One of the most touching moments in Sen. Chiz & Heart Escudero's wedding last night was when Happy Ongpauco read a note sent by Heart's dad. Full text as follows: TO HEART: ISA SA PINAKAMASAKIT PARA SA ISANG AMA AY MAWALA ANG ANAK NA BABAE SA KANYANG PODER. MULA NANG PINANGANAK KA, IKAW AT ANG MGA KAPATID MO ANG BUHAY NAMIN. MARAMI KAMING SINAKRIPISYO AT ANG TANGING HANGAD LANG NAMIN (AY) MABIGYAN LANG KAYO NG MAGANDANG KINABUKASAN AT BUONG PAMILYA. THIS IS IT. YOU ARE ABOUT TO ENTER A NEW CHAPTER IN YOUR LIFE. YOUR MOM AND I TAUGHT YOU THE PROPER VALUES IN LIFE. AND YOU ARE OLD ENOUGH TO KNOW WHAT'S RIGHT OR WRONG. MY ONLY WISH IS TO SEE BOTH OF YOU HAPPY. ALAM MO ANAK, GUSTONG GUSTO KITANG IHATID SA ALTAR. SINO BA NAMAN ANG AMA NA AYAW MAKITA ANG KANYANG ANAK SA PINAKA-IMPORTANTENG ARAW NG BUHAY NIYA. BUT A LOT OF THINGS HAS HAPPENED THAT HINDER US FROM GOING. SANA CHIZ, MAHALIN MO NANG BUONG BUO ANG ANAK NAMIN. ACCEPT EVERYTHING ABOUT HER. TAKE CARE OF HER AND LOVE HER UNCONDITIONALLY. JUST LIKE HER MOM AND I LOVED HER UNCONDITIONALLY. THIS IS MY PROMISE — WHEN THE DAY COMES THAT I SEE BOTH OF YOU TRULY HAPPY, WHEN I SEE CHIZ LOVING YOU THE WAY YOU DESERVE TO BE LOVED, I WILL COME KNOCKING AT YOUR DOOR. I MAY NOT BE THERE RIGHT NOW BUT I AM THINKING OF YOU HEART. I LOVE YOU, DAD #chizheart21515
I felt so sad seeing this post.I haven’t really experienced a wedding as grand as this and how it feels to walk down the aisle with my parents ( I am married and had a simple civil wedding ceremony), but I felt her pain.
When Heart’s father said in his letter “Alam mo anak, gustong gusto kitang ihatid sa altar. Sino ba naman ang ama na ayaw makita ang kanyang anak sa pinaka-importanteng araw ng buhay niya”, the question definitely struck me. I just thought, was he still asking himself as a father to Heart Evangelista or someone who has put pride first in his heart before anything else. Surely, if you have it in your heart to say that as a father, you wanted to be present to your daughter’s wedding day and you know that it is such an important part in her life that you walk her through the altar, whatever conflict or issues that may have hurt you in the past should not be a hindrance for you to show your love to your daughter unconditionally.
What does unconditional love means? According to wikipedia, Unconditional love is known as affection without any limitations. It can be also love without conditions. This term is sometimes associated with other terms such as true altruism, complete love, or “mother’s/father’s love.”
If a father’s love for a daughter is really considered as unconditional love even there has been issues or conflicts that has happened or is still happening, shouldn’t it be that the unconditional love that you profess to your daughter would weigh more than the pain or hurt that she has caused you? Enough love for you to endure your own pain just to see your child’s happiness first before your own.
That wedding day of Heart Evangelista and Senator Chiz Escudero will happen just once and its a sad realization that her parents let such a special moment of seeing her on her wedding day and walking her to the altar slip away because of a hardened heart. Loving your child unconditionally as exemplified by God is to bury whatever pain your child might have caused you to hurt so badly and still be true to your promise to love him/her no matter what. That means setting aside your own pride and doing a sacrifice on your part to make your child feel loved despite of what he/she has done to you. Loving your child unconditionally is making sure that her happiness is more important than your own happiness. And having that kind of love can only come from God.
1 Corinthians 13:4-7 says “Love is patient and kind; love does not envy or boast; it is not arrogant or rude. It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful; it does not rejoice at wrongdoing, but rejoices with the truth. Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.”
We have to learn to love our children the way how our God loves us and loves them. Our love to our children must come from God and not from our own emotions or feelings that can be corrupted by pains and conflicts. True love has faith.
Should you wait until you see that the man whom your daughter chose to marry is able to love her the way you think she deserves to be loved? As parents, who are we to judge what kind of love our children deserves from other people? We can only be sure of one thing, God can love our children more than we can love them unconditionally as God’s love remains even when we fail Him as His children.
God would not have allowed them to get married if God has not chosen Senator Chiz Escudero for Heart Evangelista to be her husband. As parents, we are just instruments of God to guide and teach our children, whom God has placed under our care, to walk in the ways of God. As much as we want to protect and make sure that our children will have the best life we want them to have, let us remember that God is the one who is in control of their lives and the best we can do is to pray for them and ask for God’s guidance to help us to be the parents that God wants us to be.
I know that I am in no position at all to judge Heart’s parents for their decision not attend their daughter’s wedding. If God allowed their hearts to be hardened by