Whenever I want my husband to do something and I can’t see him doing it, I tend to nag him until he gets irritated but he ends up still not doing what I asked of him to do.
My reaction is to nag more which leads into a painful confrontation of the things that he has not been doing which irritates him more. The next thing I know is that we are in such a big fight that we can’t back down from our anger.
I just can’t seem to stop myself from nagging him when I want him to do something even if I know it will irritate him and knowing that the end result will be a never ending argument of what has not been done and what he has done so far.
I remember when I kept telling him to sell his collection of CD (rap & hip-hop music) because I felt that it was taking so much of his time looking at his CD collection, taking pictures of it and it was already an idol to him that is dividing his attention from seeking God with all his heart, mind, soul and strength.
I would often find myself in the morning nagging him about his CD collection and bombard him with reminders to give it all up. I even resorted into asking him which is more important to him, his love for his CD collection or me. I challenged him that if he does not give up his CD, we’d better separate. But to no avail, he just can’t and he chooses not to give it up.
During that week, I attended BSF (Bible Study For Women) and after which, I also joined the discipleship group for women under our D-group leader Mae Ann. There, in our private discussion, I shared my struggle to fulfil my role as a wife to Ace as I could not help myself from nagging him on giving up his CD collections and in a way, I am being disrespectful with the words I use to nag him.
Mae Ann reminded me that fulfilling my role as a wife is unconditional in the eyes of God whether my husband is fulfilling his role or not. She reminded me as well that the best way to deal about my request is to pray for it instead of nagging my husband into doing it because it is only God who can change someone’s heart and move a person to do something that seems impossible for them to do.
I did as they have advised me in our discipleship meeting. I prayed to God to help me control myself from nagging him about his CD collection. After 2 weeks of consistently praying to God to move Ace’s heart to give up his CD collection, after attending our sunday worship service at CCF Alabang, he told me that God spoke to his heart to finally give up his CD collection and he has decided to follow God’s command to him.
I was so surprised and truly amazed how fast God answered my prayers. I was not really expecting that my prayers would be answered that fast when I listened and obeyed how God wanted me to deal with it.
“When we pray and don’t nag, God will direct our husband to do his will.” Deonna Tan-Chi
“The king’s heart is like channels of water in the hand of the Lord; He turns it wherever He wishes.” Proverbs 21:1
To God Be All The Glory!
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