Last night, as I was doing my work in my office room at home, I heard my children making a lot of noise. It was already past 9 in the evening so I went downstairs and told them to keep their voices low while playing. Reminded them that we have neighbours who might be sleeping already and we have to respect them.
After a few minutes of returning to my office room, I could hear my 2 daughters screaming again and my son laughing so loud that I had to go downstairs again and reprimanded them for the second time around.
For a few minutes they remained quiet. Then again, I heard them making noises once more. It finally irked me that I went downstairs to tell Michal (my 10 year old kid) and Ching (my 5 year old kid) to stand up and face the wall for 15 minutes for not listening to me.
I am not a fan of spanking children to discipline them so I use either making them stand for a few minutes or even up to hours facing the wall as my way of disciplining them when they don’t listen to what I tell them to do. But of course, that’s after talking to them with respect and authority for them to follow my instructions or teachings.
To my surprise though, when I told my Michal to stand up, he said “No”. Usually, when I tell him to stand up, he knows that he is being disciplined for not listening and he would accept it. But this time around, he was saying no to my authority to discipline him. And as her sister Ching waits for the cue where she will follow what her brother does. If she sees her elder brother stands up then she will also.
He said no for about three times. I was really shock with his response as we have been studying verses on our Bible study that focusses on listening to God as well as listening to a father and mother’s teachings.
All the while I thought, he is able to grasp and understand how important it is to follow God’s command to listen to our teachings as his parents.
So I reminded him once more about what we have been studying and asked him if he was honoring God with his resistance to listen to me and get disciplined.
Proverbs 1:8 says “Listen, my son, to the words of your father. And do not forget what your mother taught you.”
He then stood up and Ching followed him. How ironic that her younger sister takes the cue from him to follow me or not. Its like in my daughter’s mind, if her Kuya will not listen, why should I? So it is very important to train and discipline your eldest child to set a good example to his/her younger siblings.
While they were standing up facing the wall, I asked them to pray for forgiveness to God for not listening to my instructions as their mother as God has commanded them to do so.
“Train a child in the way that he should go, and when he is old he will not turn from it” Proverbs 22:6
To God Be The Glory!